You and your former spouse recently reached the child custody portion of your divorce. Because this offers unfamiliar territory, you may not know the finer points of making joint child custody work for everyone.
Parents magazine provides insights that you may find useful. Understand how to do right by yourself, your ex and your shared children.
Keep the focus on your children
Throughout navigating the custody process, put your kids’ needs first. Now is not the time to act out of spite, hurt or any other negative emotion you may have about your former spouse. You may make child custody decisions that do not sit well with you but prove most favorable for your kids.
Refrain from badmouthing your ex
Do not speak ill of your ex in front of your children. You do not know how your words may mentally and emotionally affect your kids, and you do not want to risk your child repeating what you say to the other parent. Find a healthy way to express your emotions without harming anyone or jeopardizing your right to see your children.
Be honest about your work schedule and other obligations
When deciding how much time you spend with your kids, be honest about your work schedule and any other commitments you have. Leave room for yourself to recharge and remain present when you have custody of your children. Overestimating how much time and energy you can devote to your kids may result in burnout or your children feeling disappointed when you do not meet your obligations or constantly show up late.